Well not really, but really…
The last couple of days and nights have been tough, even for me, who puts up with a lot.
My 2-year-old son has a nasty ear infection. So nasty that the fever refuses to budge and we are now visiting the doctor for antibiotic shots. So I let him fall asleep in my bed. Just let him stay, knowing he was going to wake several times in pain, wanting me, and I had the Motrin ready to go.
Of course on this night, our six-month-old daughter, who usually wakes up for two or three feeds over night and is back asleep before her body hits the mattress, decides (for the first time), that waking up at 1.30 am was a good idea. By this time too, my three-year-old son had climbed into the bed and was snoring up a storm, as he too although not infected, has fluid in his ears.
Arg… so I left the room and climbed into the boys’ bed with the baby until finally she settled and went back to sleep. I fell asleep too, until the 2-year-old got up, turning all the lights on looking for me.
On top of that, the boys usually wake around 5.30 am every morning and demand everything of me until bedtime. To say the least, it’s exhausting.
I do get a bit of a break when I drop them off at daycare from 8.30 am to 3.00 pm, two days a week. But that’s only over the summer, for now.
Right now, I feel like I’m never going to catch up on sleep. I’m truly lucky if I get 5 hours a night.
So I’m reading up on suggestions and ideas, what I need to do and how can I get more sleep?
Here’s a list of suggestions that I researched for combating sleep deprivation for mommies with babies.
What’s Supposed To Help
- Delegate chores to visitors – would you get your visitors to clean your house, feed your kids? (I think not).
- Pump, so someone else can feed the baby while you sleep – I pumped when my two-year-old was in the NICU for the first month of his life. I never want to look at a pump again, let alone have a second to myself with all the kids to actually pump.
- Rest or relax when the baby naps – of course, this goes out the window when you have toddlers as well as a baby.
- Enlist your husband to help – My husband is working day and night so that I can stay home with the crazies.
- Have the baby next to your bed so you don’t have to get out of bed to feed the baby – this is also a hindrance as she should be able to sleep through by now, but every time she stirs, I’m up feeding her before she wakes all the way up and repeats the events of the other night.
What Doesn’t Really Count, But Could Keep You Sane
- Watch television or work on the computer 30 minutes before bedtime – It’s the only time I can get to work on my own stuff, so really I don’t have a choice, and sometimes I’m working until midnight, to get things done.
- Drink more than one cup of caffeine per day – Well, I drink tea anyway and have been having way too much Green Tea lately, with creamer. Wow.
- Try to be the perfect host – I think I’m fine in this area, our place is too small to host much.
- Stress about the house’s appearance – This is definitely my number one issue. My coping skills go down the messier and dirtier my house is. I physically can’t keep up with my demanding trio, so luckily I get a cleaner in every now and then, and get to feel good for about a day, once every two weeks.
- Use baby’s naptime to do chores – It’s literally the only time I can do any chores, as I can’t leave her alone with the boys to do anything for a second. They love her a bit too much at times.
Some of these tips might work for some of you, and at least as I’m doing everything I know I shouldn’t, I’m thinking about what I could and should do, differently. The problem is I’m too tired to actually do some of the things. For instance, take the three-year-old back to his bed when he comes in in the middle of the night, or try to train the baby to go back to sleep without a feed, as that could potentially wake her more and will be harder for me to get her back to sleep and therefore, even more, lack of sleep for me.
Let me know if any of you mommy’s have any suggestions, or ideas that can help this mommy or other sleep deprived moms.
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